The Day Mashed Potatoes Saved My Life

Growing up, my older sister could always kick my ass.

Not always as a physical ass-kicking either. No, my sister could kick my ass mentally, too. She would do stuff to torture me, like take my doll and say she was gonna cut its head off unless I admitted to her I was a loser, or break something and threaten to tell our mom it was my fault unless I gave her money. So at a very young age, I was faced with having to make tough decisions: do I keep my dignity by refusing her cruel demands and risk getting my ass kicked, or do I succumb to being the loser she accused me of?

When you come to a crossroads like that, it’s the beginning of what is referred to as “character-building exercises”. It supposedly builds character when someone has overtaken you physically and mentally, making you feel like a powerless piece of shit, because there will be many instances during your lifetime where you will feel like a powerless piece of shit.

So there I’d be, held mentally and emotionally hostage, and facing a stand-off with my nemesis to see who could outlast the other. Of course she would always outlast me and I would have to go searching in the backyard to find my doll’s head buried somewhere.

But there comes a point in time when you’re so sick of repeatedly being beaten down, that you just can’t take another loss; you absolutely refuse to. The thought of another mental beating is too much to bear, so you’re willing to take whatever is going to be dished out because you just don’t give a shit anymore.

and that’s when you learn apathy.

No, that’s when you learn courage.

I had reached that point, however temporarily, to summon up the courage to do something I would never normally do: Refuse to back down to my sister, show her I didn’t care what the consequences were, whatever it was she was going to do to me wasn’t going to matter, because the satisfaction of doing whatever I was going to do, far outweighed the repercussions…

… and I did this with a forkful of mashed potatoes.

Okay, not the most threatening of weapons, I realize… but remember, David took Goliath down with a stone.

We were sitting across from one another at the small dinner table in our equally small kitchen, and my sister and I were having a discussion about one thing or another. It was one of the rare occasions where we were getting along, just talking and eating together. I watched her as she shoveled food into her shitty face and contemplated all the shitty things she had done to me the past eight years (I was eight years old at the time, so okay, maybe shave off a year or two) and I started to feel really… pissed off. I looked down at my plate, scooped up a pile of mashed potatoes with my fork, and before shoveling it into my mouth, a curious thought came to mind: How far could I fling this forkful of mashed potatoes across the room?

But immediately, I had another thought: “Why not fling the mashed potatoes across the table into your sister’s face?”

It was spontaneous, an a-ha! moment, if you will. Why wouldn’t I fling them into her face instead of across the room, wouldn’t that be infinitely more entertaining and satisfying? I was armed with this forkful of mashed potatoes, glaring into my sister’s unknowing face, and thought about how thrilling it was to have that kind of power over her. I could worry about getting my ass kicked later.

My sister looked up from her plate, saw the expression on my face, and immediately understood what I was planning when she saw a creamy white cloud of potato resting in the curve of my fork’s tines, my fingers at the ready to release it like a slingshot, a devious smile curling my lips.

She immediately warned me not to dare do what I was thinking of doing, otherwise, I’d be in big trouble, which made my smile grow even larger and I started snickering. I told her she had better not move, or these potatoes were going straight into her face. She warned me again, saying “You’d better not, or I’ll kick your ass!” but her aggressive dominance wavered… she must have realized she wasn’t in the position to make demands, and then she snickered because it was such a ludicrous position for her to be in, to have the tables turned against her.

I know she didn’t think I had the guts to actually do it, which made it even more satisfying. That was the first time my sister underestimated me. There would be many times in our lives she would be shocked by her underestimation of me, her “little sister”, the one she so cruelly dominated and mistreated. I often wondered at the way she refused to give me more credit, but she was a stubborn creature.

To know I could hold her hostage by a forkful of mashed potatoes was galvanizing. I was gonna to do this and I didn’t care one bit about the ass kicking. With a quick flick of my wrist, I flung the mashed potatoes, which flew from my fork straight into her face, landing with a soft plop squarely in the center of her forehead, where it stuck. I never realized I had such good aim… it was a triumph! For a split second, she was in shock; her eyes widened and her jaw dropped open as an expression of disbelief crossed her face.

I was feeling fear mixed with the triumph, my heart pumping as adrenaline coursed through my veins. I prepared myself for the beating that would follow, but instead, something miraculous happened: We both burst out into hysterical laughter together. All the feelings of fear and hurt and sadness I felt towards my sister melted away, and a genuine moment of camaraderie that was normally void from our lives took its place.

In one swift action, I won respect from my sister and gained her friendship, however brief. In that moment I knew what it felt like to be relevant, to be included… and loved. It defined for me the meaning of having a relationship with a sister who could be accepting and fun, full of laughter and joy; elements that would continually be missing from our troubled relationship. 

Published by Clever Girl

Intrepid writer, reader and comedian.

12 thoughts on “The Day Mashed Potatoes Saved My Life

  1. Outstanding story, CGW. I am flummoxed yet again! (I double-checked the meaning of flummoxed to make sure that I was saying anything that was unnatural about oxen.)

    flummoxed – adjective – bewildered or perplexed.”he became flummoxed and speechless”.

    After all, I was expecting another ode to turkey fisting. Not that there is anything wrong with turkey fisting. Traditions make the holidays, don’t they?

    I just wasn’t expecting a sentimental story from the Queen of Sarcasm. I doff my hat to you, your Highness. Well-done.

    PS – Don’t worry. I won’t tell anyone. Your reputation is safe with me!


  2. This could have been a scene from MY childhood. As the oldest of 9 children, I suppose I played the part of your older sister. Of course, as the years have gone by, the tides have turned in favor of my younger siblings who seem to have become MUCH more clever than I ever was when it comes to practical jokes.


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